One of Ryan's notebooks that he kept in college. |
One thing I have
learned from journaling is this; it will keep you from shooting your mouth off
when you should keep it closed. I have
written about my anger, my fears, and worries or even just small
misunderstandings. I get it out of my
system. Later I go back and reread it.
Sometimes it seems that whatever has upset me is so silly and I am glad that I
never talked to anyone about it. Other
times the feelings are still there and I might feel compelled to talk to the
person about it. I haven't always
adhered to my own advice to write things down before acting but lately I am
trying to do so.
When my kids were
growing up I kept two small spiral notebooks in my purse. If we were in a public setting and they wanted to talk about
something or someone I would hand them their notebook and a pen and say,
"Write it in your notebook and we will talk about it in the
car." It seems like this most often
happened at church. They would scribble
away in their notebooks and on the drive home and during our lunch I would
listen to what was on their minds. It
has always been a running joke with us if we are out in public and see something
"strange." We will laugh and
say, "Write it down in your notebook and we will talk about it in the
car."
My kids grew up to
journal. I don't know if it was due to the spiral notebooks or just genetic. Misty writes beautiful, poignant, and also humorous
blogs. Ryan journaled on his laptop. After he passed away it was both comforting
and troubling to read his thoughts. While it seemed like an invasion of his
privacy it was heartwarming to find his thoughts on his love for his
family. Ryan was a songwriter and he
kept notes about ideas and thoughts. I
still have a few of the kids spiral notebooks and they are important to
me. I encourage everyone to
journal. You never know when those
journals will become something invaluable to you.
Several years ago I
felt compelled to blog. I enjoyed
sharing random thoughts with others. It
didn't become personal until we lost Ryan.
For a year or more I poured my grief out publicly. I had to have an outlet. Many grieving families found me through my
blogs and we shared our grief and gave support to each other. I lost "friends" over my grief
blogs; "too depressing," "go
to counseling." But this I know -
it's easy to be critical behind the safety of the internet. In a face to face situation it's not so easy
and there are some who should have "written their thoughts down in a
notebook."
I am trying to
return to more light hearted blogs. I have had a sudden interest in some of my
older blogs about rural life and growing up country. I think we are living in a time of fear and
uncertainty. Reading blogs about the
"good ol' days" takes us back to a time when life wasn't so
worrisome.
A few of my friends
have begun their own blogs. I encourage
them to write and I am anxious to read their stories. I think it would be fun to pick a
neighborhood - any neighborhood - and go door to door and ask them to tell you
their favorite story. What wonderful
blogs or even a small book that would make.
I leave you with
this. Don't be afraid to write. Once the words start they will flow easily.
Love this, Shelley! You know how highly I value writing. I wish I had known of your "write it down and we will talk about it in the car" technique when my children were small Perhaps I will have the opportunity to use it with grandchildren. Thank you for sharing!
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